10 Reasons Why You Should Love Your Online Haters

Today we live in a world where it’s almost imperative to have a social media presence;

These platforms are where we shamelessly over share information about our lives. Many of us are authentically providing information to help serve others. While some are fearlessly posting degrading and harmful content.

You’ve probably come across a few of these people in your social circle who had abused the system.

Well I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone!

Many of us successful overachievers who are doing things to better the lives of others and ourselves have been through this all too often. The most painful part is when these haters are your friends and family.

(As a word of caution if someone is bullying you or abusing you online do not stand for it, make a fast exit and report it please. It’s our duty.)


10 Reasons to Love Your Online Haters & How to Do So

You might wish there is an easy way to thwart off online negativity, unfortunately the more successful you become the more times you’ll be exposed to them. It simply means that you’re probably doing something very right or very horrible.

Either way you need to take personal inventory when it comes to haters. Sometimes they can be right and other times they’re just plain ignorant.

Therefore be brave enough to look yourself in the mirror and shift your mindset from taking it personally to accepting the fact that just because you think you’re a rock-star not everyone will feel the same.

No matter what, there will be haters, it’s just the natural procession of the universe.

The empowering part is what you do with haters and how you tame your personal fears around not being liked or accepted by everyone.

Here are 10 reasons to love your online haters, and how to do so:


1. Haters Will Hate
You can not control other people’s words, actions, or thoughts.

Haters are most likely people who are miserable with their lives and simply jealous of the great things you’re doing. Or maybe they’re just bored with life. Whatever their reason is they are actually inspiring us to be better, do better.

So realize that and move on.


2. Don’t Feed The Beast

It’s very easy to get sucked into digital warfare as you defend your stance but it’s a waste of time. Haters are stuck in their own negativity and won’t accept the opinions of others. Engaging them more just feeds the negativity.

Be the bigger person, starve the beast.


3. There’s No Such Thing As Bad Publicity

Haters can also act as an advertising tool for you.

If you ever notice whenever someone makes a horrible comment on social media there seems to be twice as many comments following either bigging you up, agreeing with you or even bashing the haters.

This actually increases your likeability!


4. You Learn to Grow A Pair

Before you know it when you read hundreds of negative comments you end up getting thick skin very quickly. Our online haters are actually helping us to grow, allowing us the opportunity to experience the good and bad that social media has to offer.

It’s almost like a brain workout courtesy of haters – thanks haters!

The best part is the workout was free – no gym membership needed.


5. Check Yourself Before Your Wreck Yourself

You may not like what people are saying but guess what it’s feedback baby.

We should pay attention because sometimes what they are saying may be right, even if it’s cringe-worthy to read. But don’t get yourself into a ball of self loathing mess.

Check your self talk and make sure you aren’t saying things to yourself that keeps you stuck in a negative state.

Shift, shift, shift until you get out of the rut. Staying in a negative state because of haters actually does a disservice to you and everyone around you.


6. Builds Your Character

This is by far the best because haters keep us on our toes.

We get to learn how to maneuver challenging situations.

The more times we challenge ourselves the more the brain will come up with creative solutions. We want to keep the brain going, active and healthy. The negative comments will also challenge us to bring our A game the next time we step into the digital arena.


7. Our Empathy Workout

We get to practice our empathy when we gracefully handle these situations.

I know it’s much easier to curse someone out but it’s way harder to be empathetic to someone who’s bashing on you.

The more we can have empathy towards each other on social media the more we are contributing to the well being of a safe environment for others.

8. Positive Vibes Only

You want to only be around those who are positive, even online.

So stand guard to the gateway of your mind (this includes social media).

All too often when we encounter negative people it’s because we are probably in the wrong circle of friends. You want to pick your online friends carefully, seek out those who are willing to be supportive and celebrate the achievements of others.


9. Get A Social Media Mentor

There are plenty of online personalities who simply ooze positivity and garner so much of the world’s attention.

During my personal down time I’ve secretly studied how Deepak Chopra, Marriane Williamson, Marie Forleo, Brendon Burchard, Tony Robbins, Tim Ferriss and Danielle La Porte have handled negative comments online.

What I found was that they all had one thing in common, it was that none of them engaged in any kind of digital warfare.


10. Look At Me Now

In the end when we are successful it feels better to know that haters tried to ride on our coat tails because it’s like some sort of validation we were right all along.

When you succeed it’s your personal glory, your way of showing off, saying;

“HEY HATER REMEMBER WHEN YOU HATED ON ME? WELL LOOK AT ME NOW!”

Don’t let haters take you down, extinguish your flame or kill your mojo. If you stick with it and for the right reasons, success is just on the horizon.


Summary

We’ve all experienced the wrath of negative comments and I won’t lie it stings. We need to thank our haters because without them all these wonderful things would’ve never come out of YOU.

Keep in mind that haters provide us with a free workout in so many different departments of our lives and the best part is we don’t need to do any of the heavy lifting, they do it all for us.

But you also need to try to understand your haters.

I’m not saying agree with them but try to see things from their point of view.

None of us are perfect beings walking this planet but we can help collectively create an online space that is perfect in celebrating the struggles, achievements, joy and pains of every person known or unknown who shares a part of their life on social media.

Our social profiles are an extension of who we are so why not take care in being kind to one another for the right reasons instead of spewing digital hate. Let’s all go out there and spread some digital love!
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Why Your Actions Outside Work Determine Your Success

Your hustle doesn’t stop when you punch out of work;

Whether you like your job or not, you need to continue your hustle after hours if you are committed to making an impact.

You haven’t eaten anything since breakfast (you ate breakfast, right?), you’ve been putting out fires all day, a customer chewed you out, and let’s not even talk about your inbox.


Why Your Actions Outside Work Determine Your Success

It’s finally hit 5 o’clock and you’re exhausted. You want to face plant onto your bed, order a pizza, and binge on Game of Thrones for the evening. Or you hit up happy hour with friends and decompress by downing some cocktails.

It sounds easy to throw in the towel after a draining day at work. But if you’re committed to success, it’s your post-5pm grind that will make you a future leader. It’s your off-hours lifestyle that will determine your success during business hours.

1. Creating vs Consuming

We’ll browse Instagram and Facebook for entertainment and escapism. Be selective in the content you consume and use it to educate yourself. Instead of scrolling through my News Feed, I read a book on the Kindle App.

I’m educating myself during my commute, on elevators, in the doctor’s waiting room, and in a Lyft. I use this to fuel my creativity, generate ideas, and find inspiration.

There’s nothing wrong with consuming content but shift the weight in creation’s favor.


CREATE MORE THAN YOU CONSUME.

I use creationism as my escapism. In fact, I’m not creating, I’m documenting. Thanks to Gary Vaynerchuk, I’ve embarked on a journey to become a better version of myself. I am using my blog to document my journey of self-improvement.

The byproduct of my self-improvement journey is that as I become a better person, I become a better in business.


2. Learn New Skills

When I was interviewing for a job, I told the hiring manager about a marketing certification I attained. Since I was selling marketing analytics software, this certification helped me connect better with marketers.

THE HIRING MANAGER WAS SHOCKINGLY IMPRESSED. SKILLS ASIDE, GOING THE EXTRA LENGTH SHOWS PEOPLE YOUR DEDICATION AND COMMITMENT TO SUCCESS.

The workplace is constantly changing. Jobs are being outsourced or replaced by robots. Simple tasks are being automated by software. Technology is rapidly evolving every day. The iPhone you bought yesterday will be out of date in six months.

The question is—how are you using the change in technology and the workplace to improve your value? Employees are required to wear several hats and this is going to require people to learn new skills.

Thankfully, technology is making it easier to learn technology. Udemy, Udacity, and YouTube make it simple to learn new skills. Even Harvard is offering free courses. There is no excuse not to increase your value in the workplace.

It just requires a trade-off of your time.

Do you go to happy hour? Or take those two hours to learn Python. Do you watch four straight episodes of Westworld? Or use that time to become a social media master.


3. Explore Your Hobbies

These are the things that really light you up. This is the outlet that gives you clarity on the things that are most important to you.

I love going for walks. I’ll listen to music, podcasts or TED Talks and wander the Seattle neighborhoods for hours. When I check back in with reality, I’m crystal clear on the things that are important to me. I’ll then get to work on those things that get me closer to my goals.

While you’are at it, you could benefit from exploring hobbies that will make you smarter.


4. Mind the People Around You
The garbage in, garbage out concept can also apply to the people you surround yourself with.

It’s difficult letting go of people that don’t bring you up. Your friends might be reliable and attentive, but if you’re looking to level up then you might have to distance yourself from them and find others who have similar goals.

Napoleon Hill discussed in his book, Think and Grow Rich, the mastermind group. A mastermind group is a group of people who have ambitious goals. The group members work together to encourage, support and carry out their goals.

There are meetups, Facebook groups, LinkedIn groups and forums to help you connect with other like-minded people.


5. Health

Mind, body, soul, and relationships. What are you doing to fuel your mind? Are you exercising and eating healthy food to keep your body in optimal shape? Do you have a spiritual practice to keep you centered? Are you spending time with loved ones?

After all, taking care of yourself is the most important thing you can do to keep you on your game in business. I’ve even incorporated off-hour practices into my business life.

The two practices I’ve implemented are mid-morning meditations (three minutes at my desk) and an afternoon walk (10-15 minutes). This way, in the midst of a chaotic work day, I can take a few moments to ground myself, then re-engage into my work.
Back to You

With all this being said, what are you doing outside of work to set yourself up for success at work?

Your dedication to the hustle outside of normal business hours is what will propel you forward at work. I get cases of FOMO on Friday nights when I’m at home honing my craft while friends are out partying.

While they do boozy brunches the following morning, I’m at the gym working on my body so that’s it’s ready for the mental gauntlet I put it through.

This is not going to be easy. Punching in at 9 and punching out at 5 is not enough. It will take discipline, persistence, and sacrifice. When you’re invited to a happy hour or an epic bar crawl, you’ll have to look deep inside yourself and make a tough choice.
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You Were Not Born to Be Ordinary, So Stand Out and Be EXTRAORDINARY!

Why do we spend so much time and energy out of our precious lives trying to fit the mold that other people try to put us in? We spend so much time trying to fit in when we were born to stand out. It is important to remain yourself and who you were born to be. The world would be so boring and uninteresting if we were all the same type of person doing the same type of thing. That would also hinder our purpose and creativity.

Living a happier and more fulfilled life for me began when I began to "break the rules," and what I mean by "break the rules" is going against the grain of what other people felt like I should be doing, and going with the grain of what I was being divinely led to do. I discovered that I was born to be unique. And by unique I mean creative and phenomenal. Now going against the grain doesn't mean that you never consider the advice of others, but it should be positive advice that is supportive of your uniqueness.

Many times we care too much about what other people are going to think about us, or what other people are going to say about us. So we stay in a "safe place" and never step out to be who we really are. When in reality why does what other people think about us or say about us even matter? Maybe those other people are so critical because they wish they had the courage to step out and allow their uniqueness to shine, but they don't have that courage, so instead they are critical of those who do.

Being true to yourself means that you are in alignment with who you were born to be and what you were called to do. You can create a lot of positive space in your life just by being yourself. And nobody wants to look back 20 years from now and realize that he or she lived their life according to the constraints and guidelines of others. And guess what? Those critical people are not going to have to live with the regret, only you are.

Here is the best way to live your life extraordinary... do what you are being divinely led to do! Even if it makes no sense to others, and it might not make sense to others since it is what you are being divinely led to do and not them. It is often hard for others to identify with things we are inspired to do. And sometimes they don't understand until the results manifest.

You might be surprised at how just going against "what's normal" can contribute to your success. People are drawn to things that are unique and stand out. If you just blend in the same with everyone else in life or in business, how will you stand out and make the impact you were truly born to make?

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What I Learnt From No One Showing At My First Workshop

I have been working with a coach to create my creative transformation business and one of the first projects was my Wildly Intimate Woman workshop.

I easily found a yoga studio to host the workshop and worked with a designer to create the perfect flyer. I loved how everything was falling into place smoothly. I imagined many people showing up at the workshop. I ran Facebook ads that received many views and likes. I thought I was on the right track.

But there was a tiny voice that whispered to me. What if no one showed up? What if what I had to say wasn’t important? What if who I was wasn’t of value?

I shivered at these whispers. My response was to ignore this voice and keep doing what I had to do to make this workshop happen, even though a funny feeling stuck in my gut.

What I Learnt From No One Showing Up At My First Workshop

A week before the workshop, I received a call from the yoga studio. The lady who had burst with excitement at my workshop idea suddenly told me in a grim voice that no one had signed up.

My blood went cold. The tiny voice became louder. I told you so.

I gathered myself and told her I would actively promote my workshop even more aggressively. I stuck fliers around college campuses in the Bay Area and put up more Facebook ads.

I told myself everyday several times a day that my workshop was going to be successful and I was of value. I wrote affirmations about it every day leading up to the workshop.

The day before the workshop, I called the yoga studio again to check. I held my breath. Surely, a couple people must have signed up by then.


“I’M SORRY, NO ONE HAS SIGNED UP, PRIYANKA,” THE LADY SAID.

My whole body became stiff. My heart beat faster. My lips trembled. I wanted to cry. But I didn’t let myself. I asked her whether I should even come on the workshop day. She advised me to come in case people would show up the day of the workshop.

The morning of the workshop, I wanted to simply cancel the workshop. I wanted to run away. The voice became louder telling me I told you so over and over. I agreed with the voice. It was a logical point she was making. What was the point of showing up if no one came? I would only embarrass myself.

But something was deeply transforming in me. Deep in my body, I knew the answer. That I had to go. I had to show up for my desire no matter the outcome. I couldn’t run away.

I jumped into the shower. As the warm water drizzled down my soft skin, I began to sob uncontrollably. I turned off the faucet. But tears still washed my face clean. My whole body throbbed and shook.

After this, everything seemed to be a blur. I threw on my clothes, had a quick bite, and stuffed the goodie gift bags I brought for the workshop participants and my laptop in my car.

I parked my car, but still didn’t have the courage to walk into the yoga studio.

So I called the lady and she told me again the same thing. No one had showed up. As I walked inside, something shifted inside me. I felt the fear melting. I handed her one of the gift bags and thanked her for being supportive throughout the process.

Afterwards, I treated myself to lunch. I feasted on a delicious sandwich and smiled. This was actually alright. I was proud of myself for facing my fear and not running away. This is why my higher self wanted me to go anyway. These are the lessons she wanted me to learn.


1. Show up fully for your desire.

When a desire bubbles in your heart, it’s because your soul wants you to expand and grow. Your heart never desires anything that it doesn’t feel is possible. Live with it. Feel it. I have always desired to be a creative person. It’s what nourishes my soul. I feel happy, alive, and joyful when I write and involve myself in other creative pursuits.

The purpose of your soul is to grow and expand. How? When? Why? That is different for every single person. Next time, a desire arises in you, do not dismiss it. Sit with it. Close your eyes. Visualize your desire.

How does it feel? Indulge all your senses. Touch. Smell. See. Hear. Taste. How does your heart feel? How is your body responding?

Give yourself the time and space to do this. It doesn’t matter how your desire will be manifested or even if it will be manifested. There is peace and beauty in just feeling the desire and it’s taking you on a path you don’t even realize at the moment.

By showing up for my workshop even though no one had showed up, my fear of being seen melted away and I’m now excited to forge forward with new ideas and workshops.

2. Face your fear, instead of running away.

Up to the day of the workshop, my standard impulse of running away from what scares and pushes my comfort zone raged. I really wanted to run away because I didn’t want to face my fear. It is uncomfortable and sweaty and sticky. But something clicked in my head.

I had to change how I was feeling inside in order to change my circumstances. Instead of viewing it as a roadblock, I saw it as an opportunity for change. Something needed to be changed inside me. There was a reason I was not living my life according to my truth.

Facing your fears allows you to see the patterns in your thinking that created your self-belief so you can flip those opportunities as moments for change and adopt a new self-belief that serves you.

Remember as Pema Chodron said:


“NOTHING EVER GOES AWAY UNTIL IT HAS TAUGHT US WHAT WE NEED TO KNOW.”


3. Your self-worth and value is not determined by the outcome.

One of the most important lessons I learned from this experience that my value and self-worth are not linked to the outcome of this workshop or any external person or thing.

The fact that I showed up fully for my desire is most important and my value and true state of abundance comes from inside.

You can tap into that inner feeling and state of abundance and richness anytime and that will reflect in your external world eventually. New channels and experiences will open up and take you on an even more meaningful journey.

4. Surrender deeply to the process.
Surrendering and letting go does not mean that you are giving up in any way. It is about pouring all your energy and consciousness in the moment in front of you and releasing what happened yesterday and is to happen tomorrow.

It means you are letting your energy guide your actions. It is about being in sync with your higher self and going with the flow with a gentle trust.

This process and preparation period exists because you are not fully ready to call and accept your heart’s deepest desires. You’re not ready to call in that perfect job, relationship, or large sum of money into your life.

So you are in transition. You are going through a divine process of preparation.

It means diving in even deeper with yourself and having the patience to see the beauty of this gorgeous process. It means committing to your inner growth and evolution even more passionately.

Because when that desire does finally arrive, you will be the person you need to be to fully accept and enjoy that desire. Your higher self knew this all along. The journey and destination will be that much sweeter.


Summary
Here’s a quick recap on what I learnt from no one showing up at my first workshop:
Show up fully for your desire
Face your fear, instead of running away
Your self-worth and value is not determined by the outcome
Surrender deeply to the process
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Amazing Benefits Of Being Optimistic

When it comes to the angle on how you perceive the world, studies have shown that being more optimistic can dramatically improve the quality of your life.

Optimism is simply looking at adversity in a positive light.

Taking the time to see things from a different perspective and shining a light on the positive can be extremely beneficial in all areas of your life.

Here are just a few ways on how being optimistic can help you in your daily routine:

Optimism promotes happiness.

It will help you keep your emotions in check.

Research into optimism shows it can actually increase your lifespan.

Being optimistic can reduce the level of stress you experience during unexpected events.

Optimism provides you with a stronger and more solid reason to live life.

Optimistic people are more proactive, rather than being reactive.

It provides you with an empowering way to handle failure in a constructive manner.

It is an essential trait that is common among successful people

It increases your productivity and creativity.

Optimism provides you with a way to deal with life in a balanced manner because it provides you the re-framing tools to deal with negative thoughts that inevitably pop up during the day.

These are just ten of the amazing benefits of being more optimistic.

There are many more attributes to taking a more positive approach to the things that life throws your way. People who tend to see the good in things rather than the bad are typically healthier as it improves both your psychological and physiological well-being.

When you are faced with adversity, the way that you approach the situation is extremely important.

Those who take a negative approach tend to live in a world that is "out to get them." These people often fail to see the bigger picture, which can have a negative impact on their life.

Those who face adversity with a positive attitude tend to have a happier life simply because they choose to see the light at the end of the tunnel. When life throws something at them, they look for the positives that can come out of it and move on towards a future that looks much brighter.

You will continually be challenged by difficult life circumstances, that is just a fact of life.

However, the next time you have negative thoughts, take a moment to think about how this negative experience could actually be a good thing. What's good can you gain here? What precious lessons can you learn from it?

Ask yourself power questions so that you take action and keep moving forward. This will benefit your entire well-being and help you experience a more fulfilling life.

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14 Reasons to Reach Out to Successful People

It used to be a lot harder to reach out to successful people;

That’s a given, right?

However, regardless of what you want to talk about with your role models and people who inspire you, there’s so many benefits of reaching out to them.

Why should you reach out to successful people?

If you’re a dreamer, and you follow others who achieved dreams similar to yours, then imagine how much could come from you conversing with them. They might just be able to help you in a ridiculous number of ways.

14 Reasons to Reach Out to Successful People

Here’s an awesome list of benefits of reaching out to successful people. There’s so much good that can come from simply shooting someone you admire an email. The possibilities are endless, so read this and see what you think.

1. You Can Learn a Lot from Successful People

The key reason why most people would want to reach out to successful people, would be to learn from them.

If you’re able to talk and converse with someone who has been successful in an area you’re enthusiastic about, that’s huge. They possess the knowledge needed to become successful at what you love to do.

Ask them questions, learn from them. Become more knowledgeable on the one thing you see yourself doing in the future.

2. They Are Almost Always Willing to Help

The great thing about those that are successful is that they often have a very generous mind-set. Most successful individuals will love to help other people. That’s normally how they’ve managed to get to where they are.

Despite everything you might have been told about the wealthy being greedy and only wanting to help themselves, it’s usually the complete opposite.

So don’t be afraid to reach out to someone you look up to, just because you think they’ll be annoyed with you asking questions and won’t want to help.

3. You Can Easily Make Crucial Connections through Them

Just because you send an email or a message to one person doesn’t mean the conversation has to end there. Someone you speak to is likely to know others who may be in a better position to help you or give you advice.

Naturally, they’ll introduce you to these people. It may end up being a crucial connection for you in the future, all thanks to you reaching out to someone completely different entirely.

Just goes to show it pays you try and communicate with successful individuals, no matter how likely you think they are to be able to help you out.

4. Nowadays, It’s Easy to Reach Out to Successful People

Gone are the days where you’d have to try and find your role models in person to try and grab a minute of their time.

Now, it’s much simpler. All you have to do is get their email address, or social media info, and it becomes possible for you to reach out. And let’s face it, it’s not exactly hard to get someone’s email address or Facebook info.

There aren’t really any excuses for not being able to speak to people who inspire you. Unless of course, they just don’t reply. Which is sometimes likely, but that’s why you reach out to more than one person.

5. Successful People Are Inspirational People

As we’ve briefly been saying in the points above, successful people are people you find to be inspirational. Being inspired by others can do wonderful things for you, and that’s probably why you look up to the individuals in question in the first place.

If you’re trying to be an entrepreneur, and you see others who are already successful entrepreneurs, it’s easy to be inspired by them.

Being able to have a conversation with them only enhances this feeling, and inspiration is definitely something we all need more of.

6. Surround Yourself with People You Want to Be Like

They say you become like the 5 people with whom you spend the most time. If you spend your time with negative people, you’ll become negative. If you spend your time with successful people, you’ll become successful.

It’s not exactly guaranteed, but the studies are there.

So naturally, having conversations with people you admire and want to be like, will help you become more like them. Understand the traits they carry, the way they speak and communicate, the attitudes they have and the knowledge that can quickly be passed on to you.

7. Its Very Motivating to See an Insight to A Successful Person’s Life

It’s a tremendously motivating experience to get a wider inside peek at the life of someone who’s successful.

Maybe they end up telling you stories that give small glimpses of some of the things they do on a daily basis. The places they go, the cars they drive, the activities they get up to.

That has to be motivating for you to see right? Knowing that you could one day have access to what they have.

I’ve recently been interviewing people for the Wealthy Gorilla podcast, launching very shortly. It has given me an opportunity to talk with successful individuals and let them share their story with myself, and soon with any Wealthy Gorilla readers when it goes live.

Trust me, their stories are motivating.

8. They’ll understand What You’re Going Through

A successful individual, 9 times out of 10, will have been through everything you’re going through right now.

Maybe you’re suffering from setbacks, disbelief, lack of results, exhaustion, money issues. Talk to someone who’s been there and come out on the other side.

It may just give you the inspiration you need to overcome any challenges in your way. Plus, since they’ve experienced the same hardships, they’ll be empathetic towards you, and more likely to want to help you.

9. It Becomes Easier to Learn From Your Mistakes

When you decide to reach out to successful people, you are making the decision to reduce your learning curve, and be able to learn from any mistakes you make earlier on.

When you have no one to look up to, and you have something you’re setting out to achieve, you only have your own knowledge to go from. Your friends can’t help you. They most likely don’t know what you’re talking about.

So being able to pick up knowledge from a mentor or role model along the journey you’re on, is a huge bonus.

10. You’re A Lot Less Likely to give up on Your Dreams

Most people decide to give up on their dreams thinking that they’re impossible. That they can’t be done, and it’s just not meant to be.

What if you were able to have an actual conversation with someone, telling you they’d achieved dreams rather similar to yours? You’d probably rethink your decision to quit right?

The excuse you gave yourself to give up is no longer valid. Before you give up on your dreams, it makes sense to try and speak with someone who’s in a similar position to the one you want to be in.

11. You Get to Experience Different Traits That Are Important for Success

I think I mentioned in one of the points earlier on that you really do get to understand more about the different traits and attitudes successful individuals carry when you converse with them.

This is an incredibly valuable experience for you because you are shown the qualities and habits you must adopt to become the individual you seek to be like, and to have the life you desire to live.

12. It Doesn’t Take a Lot of Time

Let’s be real here, it doesn’t take long to send an email. After reading through the complete list of reasons to reach out to successful people here, it’ll be clear that the time spent sending emails will 100% be worth it.

There’s not really any reasonable excuse for not reaching out to someone.

13. You Can Practice Your Communication Skills with Them

If you can communicate like a successful and confident individual would, then that puts you in a good position for making new connections, and gives you a vital skill when it comes down to your own success.

You’re able to pick up on how they communicate and reciprocate in a similar fashion, to better your level of communication in the eyes of a successful person.

14. it’s A Confidence Booster

I can’t tell you how much of a boost in confidence you receive, when someone who’s and huge inspiration to you, and clearly has a busy life, is taking the time you communicate and converse with you.

Not only does the boost in confidence come from the fact they’re taking time out of their busy schedule to talk to you. It also comes from the fact you’re speaking to someone who’s done what you dream to do.

They’ve made it possible, and maybe they were once exactly where you are now.

How to Reach Out to Successful People

We now know all the amazing reasons why we should reach out to successful people. Shortly, we’ll also go into several ways of finding people to reach out to, if you don’t know anyone already.

Now, let’s quickly list the steps of how to reach out to successful people:

1. Get their contact information

The first step to reaching out to someone who’s successful is finding their contact information. This process will alter depending on where you found the people to reach out to. If you found them through a website, you should be able to extract their email from the site.

2. Send them an initial message

Send them an initial message, introducing yourself and that you’d love to teach more about a specific interest your both share.

3. Keep it short

Keep the initial message short. There’s nothing people hate more than being emailed and essay that contains someone’s entire life story.

Keep it short, keep it sweet.

4. Ask for a more substantial conversation possibility

Ask if there’s a possibility of having a more substantial conversation in the future; maybe through Skype or in person. Just a scenario where the person can set aside some time to talk to you in more detail.

Where to Find Successful People to Reach Out to?

I mentioned earlier on in the article that it’s become far easier to reach out to successful people in recent years. So where can you find them? And I don’t mean where you can find their info, I mean where can you find them in the first place.

Here’s several ways to find successful people to reach out to:

1. Personal Websites

Doing simple google searches on the topics you’re interested in can easily bring up the websites of successful individuals within those areas.

2. YouTube Videos

Many role models have risen from YouTube, and if you’re reading this article you’re probably an avid viewer of motivational videos on YouTube.

Again, simple searches can bring up the channels of people who you’ll be inclined to reach out to.

3. News Articles

Regardless of where you see it, on TV, on the internet, or in the newspaper, news articles featuring a certain individual’s story might be appealing to you.

4. Social Media Searches

Hashtags are probably your best friend on social media. Using them well and with your interests included can bring up profiles of people you’d be very inspired by.

I’ve recently been adding people on Facebook, with whom I share many mutual friends. Through this I’ve been able to connect with many successful individuals. Which brings me to my next point.

5. Mutual Friends

It doesn’t have to be through Facebook, in person still works powerfully today. You may be aware of friends who know individuals you might like to reach out to.

If you’re friends know any individuals who work high up in companies, are entrepreneurs, or successful in your desired profession, ask them for an introduction.

6. Speaking Events

Speaking events are going to attract large numbers of like-minded individuals, and plenty of opportunities normally present themselves during these events to introduce yourself to others.

Summary

We’re coming towards the end of the article on why you should reach out to successful people. This is the part where we recap in short all the points we’ve made throughout the article, and how you can start to take advantage of this information.

Here are the 14 reasons to reach out to successful people:

You can learn a lot from successful people

They are almost always willing to help

You can easily make crucial connections through them

Nowadays, it’s easy to reach out to successful people

Successful people are inspirational people

Surround yourself with people you want to be like

It’s very motivating to see an insight to a successful person’s life

They’ll understand what you’re going through

It becomes easier to learn from your mistakes

You’re a lot less likely to give up on your dreams

You get to experience different traits that are important for success

It doesn’t take a lot of time

You can practice your communication skills with them

It’s a confidence booster

How to reach out to successful people:

Get their contact information

Send them an initial message

Keep it short

Ask for a more substantial conversation possibility

Where to find successful people to reach out to:

Personal websites

YouTube videos

News articles

Social media searches

Mutual friends

Speaking Events

In Conclusion

To conclude the article; there’s so many benefits to reaching out to successful people. In fact, we consider it a must if you’re someone who’s really trying to achieve big things.

It makes no sense to talk to people who’ve already achieved similar things to what you’re trying to achieve, in every way.

Do you often reach out to successful people?

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7 Ways Smart People Deal With People They Don’t Like

Wouldn’t it be great to interact exclusively with people you like?

It would, but the truth is, you will often encounter people who rub you the wrong way, who say or do things that irritate you.

It could be that someone is habitually late or doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do.

Perhaps it’s someone who is rude and disrespectful. It could be someone who doesn’t listen or who is very arrogant and full of themselves.

How Smart People Deal With People They Don’t Like

Whatever the situation, whether this person is a family member, a colleague, or simply someone you encounter at the grocery store, here are some tips to help you feel better about any interaction with them.

1. Accept them

There will always be people who don’t see things the way you do and who don’t behave the way you would.

When you have high expectations of yourself, most likely you’ll have very high expectations of others as well, and the higher your expectations, the more you risk being disappointed.

Before you judge someone else though, recognise that you don’t fully know them or their situation (even if it’s someone you’ve known for a long time). You’re simply seeing their behaviour in this moment.

You don’t know, and can’t know what’s really behind that. Everyone has a unique story.

Everyone has challenges and difficulties that can cause them to behave in ways that you might find unacceptable. You don’t have to like everyone and not everyone will like you. Nor will everyone think or behave the same way you do.

You’ll find people much easier to deal with if you accept this.

Then, depending on the situation, you can make a choice about how you want to deal with them. It’s easier if it’s a casual interaction and you can choose to simply walk away.

But what if it’s a family member or someone you have to work with?

Even when you’re forced to interact consistently with someone you don’t like, it’s much easier if you can accept that you don’t like them and be okay with that. This can help you make an informed decision about how you will interact with them going forward.

2. Identify what bothers you

Get clear on exactly what it is about this person that bothers you.

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Stick to the facts and do your best to keep the emotion out of it.

For example, this person might be a total narcissist, making everything about them, taking credit for everything good and blaming others for everything bad. You might find that this really bothers you, and you may wonder why everyone else is not able to see it.

Getting upset about it won’t help you. It’s never going to change who this person is. This is simply what narcissists do. Now that you know this, it’s up to you to decide how you want to interact with this person.

Perhaps you make sure, wherever you can, that other people receive credit for work they have done so all the credit doesn’t go to one person. Perhaps you can train yourself to ignore the behaviour or at least not let it affect you emotionally.

It may help you to know that narcissists behave the way they do because it covers up their insecurities and low self-esteem. They are extremely vulnerable to criticism, and have a deep need for admiration from others.

When you identify what bothers you and dig a little deeper to go beyond the behaviour, you can arrive at a strategy that helps you deal with the person and their behaviour in the most positive way possible.

3. Focus on the benefits

One technique that can help you is to think about their positive aspects.

Everyone has good in them. What do they do well?

For example, the person with the narcissistic personality may be an extremely good organiser. He or she may have a talent for organising people and making things happen. They may be very committed and show up when and where they’re supposed to.

Look for the good and focus more on that than on what bothers you. You can even sincerely compliment them on their good attributes. This can help to put you in a more positive emotional state when you need to deal with them.

4. Release the need to be right

The more attached you are to being right, the more you will struggle with people you don’t like.

If you need to be right and you feel a need to prove it, you will waste a lot of time and energy in conflict. You can know that you are right without having to argue the point or prove your case.

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In fact, in a heated discussion, letting the other person be right (even if you know that you are the one who is right) can take away all the negative energy and antagonism. You can make your point and simply walk away.

You don’t have to prove that you’re right. When two people have an intense need to be right it can escalate any simple discussion into a heated argument which can result in long-term disagreements and antagonism, just because both are determined to be right.

Ask yourself: Is being right worth the time and emotional energy expenditure?

5. Remain positive

Do you find yourself thinking about the person you don’t like and having conversations with them in your head or find yourself going over and over what it is you don’t like about them in your mind?

When this happens they have taken over your thoughts. You have given away your power to that person. The only thing this does is to negatively affect you. It does nothing to or for the other person.

Try to stick to the facts of the situation and disconnect emotionally.

When you are connected emotionally it becomes your problem. It can take over your life. Don’t let it. Focus on what you need to do in order to be able to detach. Find positive ways to think about the situation. Think of positive ways to deal with the person.

Look for something positive and make the decision that you will not let them take over your thoughts or steal your present moment awareness and peace.

6. Become an observer

If you find yourself reacting to someone you don’t like, you’re giving your energy to them.

Sometimes you may encounter people who try to manipulate your energy or who try to project their issues onto you. When you react to that, you feed them energetically. This leaves them feeling stronger and you feeling weaker.

They start to feel better about themselves and you start to feel worse about yourself.

Next time you encounter such a situation, see if you can simply observe their behaviour without being triggered or getting pulled in. You’ll notice something interesting.

When you don’t feed them or the situation with your energy and when you refuse to take on their issues, they are left with it all to themselves.

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This leaves them feeling more and more uncomfortable because they’re having to deal with their own negative energy all by themselves, since you’re not engaging. You don’t need to take on their stuff, and you don’t need to let them take your energy.

Become an observer and stay empowered. They will soon learn that you are confidently grounded and can’t be messed with, making your interactions with them much more positive for you.

7. Be willing to learn

There is always something to be learned from any difficult or negative person or situation.

You can learn a lot about yourself, as well as others. Whenever a difficult person enters my life I ask myself what they are teaching me about myself. I know that once I learn whatever I’m supposed to, then that person won’t be a problem for me any more.

Either they will move out of my life, or our interactions will be positive. If they remain in my life, it doesn’t mean that I have to like them, although that may be a possibility. But I can learn how to deal with them in a positive and empowering way.

I can learn to interact with them in a way that feels good to me, and ultimately that is my main objective, to feel as good as I can, as often as possible.

When you are willing to learn and to actively look for the lesson this person can teach you, you take control of your life. This is a proactive and very powerful approach. It will teach you how to respond, as opposed to reacting to them.

Summary

Recognise that there will always be people you don’t like and that don’t like you – and that’s perfectly okay.

It’s all part of life and its many lessons for us.

What I have learned is that the more positive you are, and the more you apply the techniques mentioned above, the fewer encounters you’ll have with people you really don’t like, and when you do, you will have the tools to deal with them in the most positive way possible.

And remember to be grateful for all the difficult people and situations that challenge and frustrate you, because often they are our very best teachers.

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