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Sunday, 18 September 2016

How Successful People Stay Productive: 10 Habits to Live By


How Successful People Stay Productive: 10 Habits to Live By


What are you willing to do to be successful? If you are interested in being an average Joe, then this is not for you. However, if you want to excel in life you are going to have to stand out in positive ways.


In order to stay on top of your game and reach the level of success you want, you need to follow a certain set of self-induced rules. Success is not something that happens by accident; if you want it bad enough, you will get it. Learn the habits that successful people have given up in order to reach their own success.


They don't work in their comfort zone.

What is your comfort zone? Your comfort zone is defined as a psychological state in which a person feels familiar, at ease, in control, and experiences low anxiety. When you get outside of your comfort zone, it doesn't mean that you should strive for a constant state of anxiety and stress. It simply means that, in order to grow, you should try new things and expand your horizons.

The reason we are comfortable in our comfort zone is because we are not taking risks when we are in this state. When we live in our comfort zones, we are living life like hamsters on a wheel, going around and around in a constant cycle, but going nowhere in our lives.

Famous motivational speaker, Les Brown, said it best with, "If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness."

They don't do without first learning.

Learning is what we do best. The greatest thing about learning is the benefit that we receive in all aspects of our lives. Successful people strive to continue learning new things and expanding on things that they already know.

If we stop learning, then the only thing we can do is settle with what we already know; if we settle for that, then there is no way to expand our minds. Expansion is essential on the path to success. Since our minds require learning for expansion, we must never stop seeking new knowledge.








Imagine what would have happened if Bill Gates stopped learning and growing. The internet would be much more primitive than it is today. But because he followed his dreams and continued growing, he founded one of the biggest companies in the world and it is still flourishing and growing today.

They don't fear asking for advice.

Richard Branson, a famous entrepreneur, stated, "When you need to make hard decisions, being able to discuss your ideas with entrepreneurs and business leaders who have solved similar problems can make all the difference."

Asking for advice is not always easy. We think that we have the same opportunity as everyone else and sometimes feel insecure and dependent, so we decide not to ask for advice, and try to figure it out ourselves. But this could be greatly limiting us from reaching our full potential, because the advice we might be seeking could be something that somebody knows very well.



They don't get lost in the small details.

When life gives us seemingly endless opportunities, it is very easy to get lost in the small details. The small details are very easy for us to become focused on, thus causing us to miss out on the overall vision, also known as the "big picture".

Focusing too much on the smaller details constricts your ability to see how everything ties together. Much of our lives hinge upon the connections that we make with others and with ourselves. If we get lost in the small detail, it is like having missing pieces to a puzzle. How are we supposed to solve that?

Imagine what would have happened if Henry Ford only saw the small details. When building the company that Ford is today, he knew that he must do something different if his company was to succeed. After many people told him it couldn't be done, his company continued improving upon the smaller details until they got it right.

Henry Ford didn't focus too much on the small details, which were the hundreds of times he failed; he saw the overall goal and knew that it could be accomplished. It required seeing the bigger picture to make it happen.

They don't multitask.

Multitasking is typically viewed as a skill that only certain people possess. But truth be told, nobody actually has the ability to multitask. Multitasking is known to actually decrease productivity. Those who are successful focus on one specific task and do that task to the best of their ability without interruption.

When you multitask, you limit your ability to fully focus on one specific task at a time. Successful people utilize the talents and abilities that they have by focusing it on one task and one task only.

Emma Watson said, "I just dropped my iPhone in my soup. I think it might be time to tone down the multitasking." This demonstrates how destructive multitasking is highlighting the fact that when we multitask, we are greatly limiting ourselves.

They don't lie to themselves.

Lying to yourself is one of the easiest things for you to do. It is much more difficult to accept the problems that we have without make excuses for them. Successful people understand that we will encounter problems, both internally and externally.

But it is important to accept the problems that reside in our lives, rather than not dealing with them and lying to ourselves about them.

As Steve Maraboli said, "Stop lying to yourself. When we deny our own truth, we deny our own potential."

They don't procrastinate in asking for feedback.

Feedback is important, because it gives you a different perspective on your current situation. Sometimes you are not able to see the answer that is right in front of you. But when someone gives you feedback, it allows you to see something from the perspective of someone else.

If you procrastinate asking someone for feedback, you are missing out on time that could be put towards accomplishing your dreams. The longer you wait, the harder it is to utilize advice that others can give you.

"I think It's very important to have a feedback loop, where you´re constantly thinking about what you've done and how you could be doing it better," entrepreneur Elon Musk once said.

They don't follow, they lead.

You have probably heard the phrase "lead, follow or get out of the way." There are two types of people in this world: leaders and followers. The ones who are successful are the ones who are leading the pack.

Successful people are not successful because they got there by chance. They did not follow somebody to the finish line. They paved their own path in life to get where they needed to be.

Just as the great Robert Frost stated, "Two roads diverged in a wood, and I - I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference."

They don't let the past dictate their future.

The past is something that we will never change, nor should we want to change it; because without it, we would not have learned the lessons we needed to learn. Therefore, we would wind up making the same mistakes over and over again until we learned the lesson that life is trying to teach us.

At one time, businessman Shahid Khan washed dishes for $1.20 an hour. His humble background did not prevent him from thinking bigger though. With a net worth of $3.8 billion dollars, he now owns Flex-N-Gate, one of the largest private companies in the U.S., the NFL's Jacksonville Jaguars, and Premier League soccer club Fulham.

They don't hang around negative people.

Negative people are very destructive to be around when it comes to achieving success, because there are so many situations that life throws at us and causes us to get down on ourselves or our situation. But some people like to focus on this aspect of life the majority of the time.

When you are around negative people enough, you start to see things negatively and you begin to lose sight of your dream. Success is more about mindset than anything, and if you always have a negative mindset, life will reward you with negative outcomes to deal with.

Joel Olsteen once said, "You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people." So if you wish you be successful, don't focus on the negativity that others bring.

To be successful requires focus and determination. It seems that every successful person follows similar patterns. Therefore, it's easy to see why they are where they are. They knew what they had to do in order to achieve their dreams and they didn't let anyone or anything stop them from getting there.

You have the power in yourself to become one of those successful people you admire and look up to.




Tuesday, 6 September 2016

6 Simple Questions You Need To Ask Yourself When You Become Fearful


6 Simple Questions You Need To Ask Yourself When You Become Fearful




"One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do." Henry Ford

There isn't an individual who hasn't been afraid or faces difficult circumstances that caused them to be fearful at some point. Fear is one emotion that most of us dread, but all will have experienced during our lifetime.

What are you afraid of? What makes your heart stops when you think of it? What stresses you out more than anything else? What is it that worries you most?

Are you worried about your future like so many of us? Do you worry about the security of your job or the future for your children? There isn't a shortage of things to cause us fear. Life is unpredictable and because of the uncertainty and the unknown we develop a fear for the future.

If you are like most of us, you need to develop the right attitude to overcome your fears. Living in fear is never the answer. You need to face the fears you have and find solutions to avoid dealing with them over and over again.

Find the source of your fear and deal with it head-on. The great thing about confronting your fears is that once you have dealt with it, it will no longer cause you to fear. You will also become stronger and better able to deal with other uncertain issues in your life.

Here are six questions you should ask yourself when you are feeling fearful that will help to manage your fears.

1. Am I fearful for the right reasons?

Fear is a good thing as it helps to keep us safe. Use your fear in the right way and for the right reason. Do not spend your life being fearful of life. Use your fear to motivate you to go after your dream. Do not be consumed by the fear of the future but use those fears to work on making your future brighter. Face your fears by channeling them into areas that will give you the results you want.






2. Are my fears positive or negative?

What are the things you dread most? Are they positive or negative? Which type of fears do you tend to focus on? Rather than be fearful of the things you have no control of, channel your energies on to things that will make your life easier and less stressful. Take the time to focus on the positive and do not focus on negative things. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. Franklyn Roosevelt

3. What meaning am I giving to challenges?

Think about it seriously, what are you focusing on? Are you giving these fears a life by constantly thinking about them? If so resist the urge to worry and reclaim your power and focus your attention on things you want to achieve. Focus on the things that will help you to become a better person.

4. Am I causing fear to rob me of my life?

If you spend your life in fear, you will never enjoy your life. There will always be something to fear. Why spend your time worrying about things that might not happen and you cannot control. To be happy, you must rid yourself of fear as fear robs you of your joy. You can never enjoy life being afraid.

5. Are my fears real or imagined?

Many times you cultivate fear when, in fact, there is nothing to fear. When a situation arises, you give it more power than you should? Quit giving your fear the power to grow. Remember things always seem worst than they truly are.

6. What can I learn from these fears?

Find out what lessons life is trying to teach you. Do not miss the opportunity to get the message you are being sent. Whenever you feel afraid, find out what it is that scares you the most and what you can do to reduce your fear.

Our fears will never go away, but you must be able to control your fears and not allow it to control you. Live your life in confidence expecting the best, and the best will happen. When you feel fearful find the cause of your fear and find a solution and if you can't stop worrying about it because there is nothing you can do about it.





Sunday, 4 September 2016

7 Valuable Lessons to Learn While Escaping Your Comfort Zone

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. So if you’re feeling uncomfortable right now, know that the change taking place in your life is the beginning, not the ending.” – Neale Donald Walsch
The comfort zone; one place which destroys all your potential and belief to live an extraordinary life. Living outside of your comfort zone means mental and psychological growth, which we all need to live a happy life and enjoy it to the fullest.



One of my biggest challenges I have taken so far was moving across the globe all by myself with £250 in my pocket. Did I feel uncomfortable? You bet. But the biggest challenges often brings into our lives the most significant rewards.
It’s been almost 4 years since I moved and I have never regretted it. The amount of knowledge, experience, and lessons I have learned along the way are priceless.

7 Valuable Lessons to Learn While Escaping Your Comfort Zone
I have written this article to motivate you and to encourage you, to give you enough reasons why stepping out of your comfort zone may be the best decision you can make for yourself and your future.
Here are 7 valuable lessons which teach you what life is truly about:

1. You Will Push Your Limits

We all have certain limits in what we can or can’t do. Stepping out of your comfort zone will push those limits and make bigger space for you to expand. What you thought is impossible a few months ago is now part of your daily life. Isn’t it crazy?
Stop for a second right now and think of the one moment when you got out of your way and acted in spite of fear. Think about it and ask yourself, “If I was able to do it back then, why not try it again?”

2. You Will Expand Your Potential

Have you ever thought how much potential and energy you have within you? The amount is enormous. Why don’t you use it? Why not take a chance and see what happens?
People don’t become successful because of the money or the right influences. Individuals who made it to the top knew that comfort zone is a broke zone. They also knew that using their potential is the fuel behind extraordinary results.
Once you start expanding your potential, it will become a habit, a source of euphoria you experience and enjoy it at the same time.



3. You’ll Gain Undeniable Courage

To gain muscles, you need to train them on a constant basis right? The same happens with courage. Only by overcoming a fear of the unknown and going beyond your comfort zone, you will become braver than ever before.
We don’t become courageous by watching House of Cards in our favourite sweatpants in the comfort of our home.
Courage comes in a moment when we decide to fight for what we want no matter the situation or feeling. Feeling will pass, but what we create or become will last much longer.

4. You’ll Become Confident in Yourself

The World outside of your comfort zone may seem scary. We don’t know what is out there, whether pleasant moments or difficulties. But this unknown environment is exactly what build us up, makes us stronger and braver for the future.
Overcoming what we fear builds confidence and healthy self-esteem, which is an essential part of every success in life.
Try to recall the last time you acted in a courageous way and think of the feeling after you have succeeded.
How did you feel about yourself? How did you see yourself when you looked in the mirror? You felt proud; you felt satisfied, and this is exactly the kind of reward you gain by going the extra mile.



5. You’ll Become Stronger & Unstoppable

Living outside of your comfort zone will teach you many lessons.
By getting hit by unpleasant moments and circumstances, you will become stronger every time situation happens, and you overcome it.
This strength will build up your character and shape you as an individual with a powerful mind-set, ready to face any challenge along the way.
As you will grow and see the difference you can make in your life and how the power of mind really works, you will become unstoppable in reaching what you desire the most.

6. It Will Excite You to Share It with Others

Once you’ve expanded your mind-set and see what is beyond your comfort zone, you will realize that many people are stuck. People don’t believe in themselves, and that’s why they are trying to avoid any opportunity for growth or change.
Not everyone will welcome your advice to follow your path or to try it out. That’s fine.
But there are going to be those individuals who feel as excited as you. I believe it is your and my responsibility to share with others that beyond our limits is a much better world which is worth every single struggle and sacrifice.




7. You’ll Gain Encouragement & Belief to Create Life on Your Terms

By expanding your potential, gaining confidence in yourself and having a clear picture of what is out there, you will feel encouraged and alive.
It will bring you a sense of determination to create a life based on your biggest dreams and desires, the one you want, not your boss or teacher or parents.
Once you practice living life outside of your comfort zone, you will strengthen your belief in yourself and a better life. You’ll get the opportunity to discover a whole new level of possibilities which you had no idea exist.



Conclusion

Eliminate the ceiling above your head.
Get rid of this illusion you have created in your mind where you subconsciously sabotage yourself from growth. Real deal begins when you are willing to feel as uncomfortable as possible.
Fear doesn’t exist; it is a product of your thoughts, and you are the only person who has the power to destroy it.
Once you overcome this fear of the unknown, I guarantee you that you will not want to come back to your ordinary life.
Once you taste the power of your mind, once you grow and see what you are truly capable of, you will begin the most amazing, courageous and insane adventure of creating an extraordinary life.


Monday, 15 August 2016

Your greatest fear is your biggest enemy

Let me tell you right now that fear will not disappear. Fear is part of life. To fear is to be human, and fear is a valuable auto-response in certain life situations.




It’s just that we don’t handle it very well in non threatening life scenarios.
The wealthy have developed courage de-risking strategies and have all worked on ways to manage their fear.
The only fear you should fear is fear itself.
I have personally struggled with this for most of my life and have because of this done many workshops and courses on fear and how to manage it. So here is what I learned about fear.
One of the main ways to deal with fear is to expose yourself to it in a controlled environment. Start small, so you don’t get consumed by fear or you don’t fail too big and too fast.
But you’ve got to do it, right away. Just like an inoculating injection is actually a little bit of the virus, you’ve got to experience the exact fear full on to beat it. There is no other way around it, but people spend their whole lives trying to find it.
Ralph Waldo Emerson says: ‘do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain’. That is true in many cases, as once you have faced your fear, and found the fear unfounded, how can you fear it again?
You’ve seen the proof and the reality and you realised all the fear was imagined in your head.
Our unconscious mind creates all kinds of negative scenarios in an attempt to protect us, but remember that its job is to protect you and keep you safe, not to help you reach Wealth and fulfilment.
Our fears have not evolved as fast as the world we live in, so we fear small things like public speaking and asking someone out on a date as much as we do severe heights or death (which we really should fear).
I’ve walked multiple times over glowing coals, have broken arrows with my throat and done all kinds of things to build references in my memory that I can do things that my mind doesn’t believe I can.
And man you feel great when you beat it!
But all you are beating is the imagined reality in your head that never happens that way anyway..
One of the best definitions I ever heard is based on the astonishing fact that fear and excitement are biochemically the same.


So how come that we love one and want to avoid the other?
It appears that with excitement we anticipate a pleasurable outcome, with fear we anticipate future pain. So nothing actually yet happened, but it’s the anticipation that creates the emotion.
Wealthy and successful people have learned to manage this self-talk, helped by references of past success or their peers and mentors.
They have learned a better response mechanism, to feel the fear and to go for it. They know you can’t hide from it because it will sabotage your Wealth.
They know what is on the other side of fear; everything they want, and that they have 2 easy choices: don’t do it and forever regret it, keep telling yourself stories as to why you never did it; or do it and collect the money, honey.

So what are you going to do my friend?

Let the fear keep you small, block your progress and limit your achievement?
Or
Just decide. Do something. Anything?
Look for the truth. Look for the facts. (Fear feeds on lies)
What’s the worst that can happen? The biggest way to reduce risk is increasing your knowledge. (Fear feeds on the unknown)
‘Get perfect later.’ (Fear feeds on perfectionism)
Don’t wait to run the marathon. Take the first step today. (Fear feeds on waiting for the ‘right time’)
“Fears are educated into us and can, if we wish, be educated out.”
So “educate them out”. Beginning today. You’re smart. A go-getter. A person of excellence–and vision
Inspire others by your bigness. Dream big but start small. Act now. Don’t stop. Change the world
We are with you every step of the way.