5 Strategies to Keep Your Compliments and Build Your Confidence

5 Strategies to Keep Your Compliments and Build Your Confidence

How do you feel when someone pays you a sincere compliment? Great, right?


That compliment has more to offer than giving your spirits a momentary boost. You can put that simple compliment to work for you in ways you might never have thought of. Let's explore further.

1. Keep your compliments.

When someone compliments you, write it down. Value it and keep every single compliment that anyone ever pays you. Put it in a journal, a Compliments Catalog, if you will. Or keep a special file or folder online. Whatever method you use, record every compliment verbatim.

2. Embrace your fabulousness.
Positive feedback can be harder to accept than negative. Really make an effort in the moment to take the commendation in. It's a tribute to your skills, expertise, and effort. Accept it as the gift that it is.

The value of this feedback is more than making you feel good in the moment. When you're able to embrace it, you increase your confidence. Re-read it later, maybe at a time when you're feeling down or about to go into a big meeting or call. Any time you feel disconnected from yourself and need to be reminded.

Re-reading your compliments help you sustain your confidence level and your motivation. It's a lot easier to maintain than to build back up, so put your energy into maintenance.


3. Spread the joy.

Let people know the positive feedback about you or your business. To be respectful, check with the complimenter first, and if they're OK with it, share the joy. Social media or your website are great places to let people know what others have said. It's called, 'social proof.' Proof that others think you're exceptional. It'll raise your respect quotient and your online capital.

4. Amp up your bio.

Include recurring compliments in your online bio on social media platforms like Facebook and Twitter. Or in the bio you provide to someone who is introducing you as a speaker.

You can take this even further in your marketing. Stories are valuable marketing currency we can all use to share our businesses with each other. Sharing stories of how you helped a client (or team member or supplier) allows for more and valuable connections with your audience. People will take notice if your bio is different and personal. Include a brief story behind a testimonial you received.

5. Pay compliments forward.

You can have an impact on other people's confidence too. When you have a great experience with them or their business, let them know. Then they can start their own compliments journal. You'll deepen your connections and expand your impact with some simple words of sincere praise. It's a valuable gift to others.

Value your compliments. You can use them in many ways to boost yourself and your business.

Here's one from me to you: I think you're brave and smart. Ready to embrace that?





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8 Simple Steps To Solve Any Problems You Face

Do you think you could solve any problem?”

No matter how big it is, or how long it has affected your life?

ANSWER:

Here are 8 simple steps to systematically solving any problem you face:

s-s-s-sounds nice, that line ;-)

OK, here they are:

1. Clearly define the ‘problem’

Most problems are actually due to a lack of communication or clarity around what the problem actually is in the first place. How many times in your life have you actually discovered that the problem you thought you had wasn’t even the problem?

Keep digging and get to the root of the problem.

How many drugs are prescribed that don’t actually cure the problem?

How many wars do you think solve the problems at hand?

Clearly define the ‘problem’ through precise questioning and active listening, and you are well on the way to the solution:

“A problem well stated is a problem half solved.”

Have a ‘How can I?’ and not an ‘I can’t’ attitude.

2. Approach the problem with the attitude that there is a logical, practical solution, even if you don’t know what it is yet.

Be relaxed, confident and clear in your mind that the solution is there, and you just need to go through a natural, necessary process to get from A. the problem, to B. the solution.

3.Change your language from the negative to positive.

Instead of the word “problem,” use the word “challenge.” Problem is a negative word while challenge defines something that is there to be solved, a task that could even be fun, something to feel a sense of achievement to.

4. What are the causes of the ‘problem’? [now 'challenge']

Failure to identify the causes or reasons for the ‘challenge’ often means the problem recurs time and again. Like Yo-You dieting is often linked to an emotional based challenge – not the food or exercise on the surface. And recurring mistakes or themes in your life are probably more deeply rooted.

It is so much faster and more powerful to get to the root cause of the challenge, than to attempt to solve the ‘surface’ of the challenge.

5. What are all the possible solutions?

List and physically write down as many solutions or answers to the ‘challenge’ as possible. The quantity of possible solutions usually determines the quality of the solution, and you will be amazed at just how many potentially limitless solutions there are to one challenge.

This also has the powerful effect of devaluing the challenge. I once wrote down 356 solutions to one problem and it made it look pretty

The longer your list, the more creative and ‘left-field’ the solution, and they are often the best. They are also often the ones you don’t usually think of, and so are new opportunities.

6. Make a decision.

Usually any decision is better than none.

People are scared to make decisions, often go around in circles, and worry that any decision they may make, might be wrong.

The only wrong decision is no decision, because even if you are not sure that the decision you have made is the right one, it will either get you one step closer to the right decision, give you the feedback you need to get to the solution, or teach you something new.

You then have the power to make even a bad decision the right one.

Have Faith in Yourself.

You have all the tools available now to solve any problem, give yourself some credit and have faith in your abilities; you’re far more amazing than you realise! – at least that’s what my Mum always told me

7. Assign responsibility for carrying out the decision with clarity.

Clearly designate the responsibility to solve the problem. The clearer, the better. If you are outsourcing or delegating the action to solve, give them autonomy to make the decisions too.

Set a deadline for completion.

A decision without a deadline is a debate.

Be practical when it comes to implementing the solution, review it, monitor it and set an end date to make it happen.

Have others buy into the decision and the end date so they take on responsibility too.

8. Follow-up, monitor the decision and feedback.

Was the outcome as you hoped or expected?

What worked? What could have been done better next time? How can we avoid having the same challenge again? Create new solutions and new courses of action.

Enjoy turning every new problem from a problem into a challenge, then a challenge into a solution :-)

Empowering Greatness in Everyone

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