Tell Me I Was Dreaming

Is this really happening... it has to be a dream; these are words born in the state of confusion that ensues when suddenly we wake up and realize they are gone. Gone is a lonely, desolate word delivering a cold harsh reality with awful finality. Gone carries the sound of the human heart breaking into pieces. It invites us to cover our heads and go back to sleep, back to yesterday when nothing was changed. Regardless of how strong and competent you may be the loss of someone you love is accompanied by a host of fears.

Will you make it through this, will your world ever be the same again, will you ever stop hurting, or how can life ever be the same again? These are the fears that accompany a profound loss. Somehow diving back under the covers to dream time is a natural response. And why not; we heal when we sleep. This kind of traumatic change inflicts deep wounds, the kind we can't see but can never stop feeling. We instinctively run to the place where the pain stops, even momentarily. There is a need to return to sleep where we can once again touch the one who is gone.

For those who have experienced a profound loss, they know this is true. When we sleep those barriers born of 'good common sense' are down. When we dream we touch that which has gone, seeking answers that haunt us. We pray it was just our imagination telling lies, maybe they didn't really say goodbye; we need to ask those haunting questions, 'Can you hear me, are you OK, are you in pain, did you know how much I loved you; do you know how much I hurt?' These are a few of the answers we are seeking; we have to know, seemingly because we cannot go on until we do. And so we sleep until we find the truth, and there where our filters and bias are gone we find our answers. We don't really need an affirmation; we just know we have made the connection and learned the truth. We are fully awake again, wobbly, but able to test the road forward and learn to navigate without them. It really happened, it was not a dream.

There is no painless way to lose a loved one. It is a unique experience for everyone. No one can do more than understand your pain. Everything else is personal, as it should be. It is a broken road to travel yet in some odd way your grief protects you, forcing you to go slowly and see every option before you. This is necessary and helps you to see more clearly as you choose the right turn for you, onto a new path and a new future. It may never be pain free but you will always be more aware of how important today is and how comforting memories will always be. There is a startling clarity in creating new memories because you understand how important it is to capture and hold them close.

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Simple Ways Of Improving And Making Your Life Better

Success brings about happiness and fulfillment. However, this does not mean that you should wait until you have achieved everything you want to in life to be happy. Your attitude towards life is what determines how complete and happy you feel even as you continue to fight your way into success and prosperity. Starting with small changes and improvements today can make your life much better and much more enjoyable. So what exactly should you start doing to make your life better?

1. Start appreciating what you already have. It is human to always concentrate on things you want and things you have not yet achieved but the truth is if you start being grateful for what you have already, you will be a happier person with a positive attitude to life. It saves you from worrying and keeps you focused besides changing your perspective. Make a list of things you already have and are grateful for and go through it once you start feeling down.

2. Plan for your day beforehand. A list of to-do things is commonly overlooked yet it is one of the most workable in making your daily living better. When you plan your next workday the night before, you will wake up ready and excited to get the things you have on your list done. The planning will help you minimize wasting time and achieving very little by the end of the day. Know what tomorrow is all about before you sleep.

3. Keep off the negative thinking. Truth is, sometimes it is inevitable to stop thinking about the possible negatives in different areas of life. This is however something that can really drag you down and you should make a point of keeping off all the negative thinking. Negativity can leave you feeling hopeless and helpless and this can reduce the quality of life. Watch out for negative thinking and negative minded people to make an improvement.

4. Drop all resentments. It is most likely that you have resentment towards peers, colleagues or even family members for one thing or another. The truth is that they take up too much of your mental space and they make it harder for you to function properly. Make a decision to let them go away and forget. Forgive and forget and you will have a much lighter load to deal with in life.

5. Understand the person you are and honor yourself. No one can love you the same you can love yourself. When you know who you are, you will definitely appreciate yourself and keep up with your values. Do not fake to be someone you are not, but instead strive to be a better person every day. When you know your strengths and your weaknesses, making improvements becomes truly easy.

6. Be ready to learn. It is not always that things will work out as you expect them to and even during such times you must find a way of learning and moving on. Do not allow yourself to get stuck in one disappointment, but rather take it as a lesson, learn something and take a different approach to achieve what you want.

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How You Can Succeed like Others Who Have Succeeded

We can easily be intimidated by successful individuals; their wealth and achievements seem unattainable, and their personality appears to be unique. It can also be discouraging to know that there is a big gap between you and some of the distinguished people in your industry.

You might even question whether you have the ability to replicate that success or if you can ever reach those levels to begin with. You should not be discouraged by the seemingly distant success of others. Instead, consider these tips to help you achieve success in your own right:
Be Yourself

It may sound contradictory, but if you want to succeed like the people who have achieved massive success in your industry and inspired you so much, you need to be nothing like them. Well, almost.

To succeed in just about any field, whether it’s sports, arts or business, you need to be yourself and avoid imitating anybody who has already made it. Replicas will never have the same credibility as the originals.

If you imitate others, sooner or later, you’ll be found out. And once you’ve lost credibility, it can be very difficult to gain it back. Let’s look at the arts, for example. How many tribute acts do you know that are more successful than the musical icons that they imitate? The answer is probably zero. That’s because audiences can see through the frailty of imitation. On the other hand, a lot of new artists are still able to break through the market and become massive successes—imitation free.
My Early Years

When I started out in this industry, there was a huge gulf between me and those who I saw on stage when attending events. They had all the charisma and personality that seemed to come naturally with top-earners. I, on the other hand, was a shy young man. I kept asking myself, “Do I have to be like them in order to succeed?”

In those early years, I was trying to be something or someone I wasn’t. I was trying to be the typical internet marketing guru with all the trimmings. It was forced, unnatural, and quite evidently, awful. But with time came experience. In early 2013, I decided to “be myself” and stopped trying to be what I thought was the blueprint for a successful internet marketer.

I subsequently got good feedback from audiences who liked my honest and forthright approach. I was transparent and true to myself. This gave me a lot of confidence and the rest, as they say, is history.
Communicate with Conviction

If you want to succeed in business, you need to clearly communicate with your audience. While keeping your voice and individuality is extremely important, keep in mind that you should have conviction along with a conversational and friendly tone when talking to your customers or clients.

I personally believe that it’s effective to talk to your prospects during training or seminars like you would your niece or nephew. You can be friendly and personal while remaining authoritative and educative. Remember, you will only succeed in this business if you portray a position of value.

Communicating with your audience in this manner can come in the form of:
Writing (having an authoritative, engaging, personal and friendly tone.)
Video (confidently speaking to your audience, yet remaining “watchable.”)

It’s important to show your personality in videos and be authentic because your audience will be more inclined to connect with you if they see the person behind the words. A Forbes study found that 75 percent of executives watch work-related video content on business websites at least once a week. And out of those, 65 percent of them said they visit the marketer’s website after watching the video.

If you copy someone else’s technique or personality, it’s highly unlikely that the 65 percent will follow and connect with you.
Conclusion

If you think that you can only succeed in business by imitating industry leaders, you need to remember one important piece of advice: There will always be a segment of the market that will resonate with what you have to offer. Just as you resonated with the industry leaders that inspire you, there will be others who connect with and are inspired by who you are and what you do.

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