Showing posts with label nlp. Show all posts
Showing posts with label nlp. Show all posts

Wednesday, 28 September 2016

Does Being Positive Or Optimistic Help?


Does Being Positive Or Optimistic Help?





Have you ever had a friend, a family member, a co-worker who seems to be always able to see the positive side of things in every situation?

As you may guess, yes these people are called the optimists.

They tend to look at the big picture for every decision they make and always find the good ones even when everything seems to be negative in their lives.

It turns out that having a positive outlook during even the most difficult circumstances is one of the most important predictors of resilience in a person.

This particular skill is what I called reframing.

Before we talk more about reframing, there has long been advocated that in order to be happy and better handle different circumstances, one has to be able to vent their anger or negative emotions to "let their steam off".

The question is, does this actually help?

The answer is research has already shown that dwelling on the negative emotions too long can actually lead one to become even angrier and more depressed.

Where your focus goes, energy flows. What you resists, persists.

People who turn their form of expression into something more positive such as a goal will end up getting over their anger or depression more quickly.

One of the most effective things you can do in order to feel better is to channel your energy of anger or depression into a more positive goal. Those individuals who are able to do this are healthier in the long run than those people are not.

Now, you may ask, why is being positive beneficial to us?

Well, most research indicated that optimistic people normally have happier and healthier lives and are more resilient overall. These people have learned how to turn their negative feelings into positive thoughts, thus improving their overall outlook on life in general.

The main reason optimistic people are more resilient than those who are negative is because they are more emotionally complex.

Optimistic people experience frustration and anxiety just like the rest of us, the difference is that they know how to fully let go of the negativity, accept the mess, reframe the situation in a more empowering way so that they can shift their mindsets into a more resourceful one.

That's why they are able to see the bigger picture and take effective actions to keep moving forward. In essence, a resilient person will use a larger range of emotions in order to deal with every situation they face.

The benefits of positive thinking are immense and if you are a negative person right now, that's okay.

There are steps that you can take in order to become more positive about life. The first thing that you must do is to step back from each situation and gain a wider perspective.

Feel the emotional arousal you've generated.

Locate the physical tension in your body, breathe into that area.

Change your state into a more resourceful one and focus your energy into finding what's good about the situation.

That's how being optimistic will help you transmute adversities into opportunities.









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Friday, 9 September 2016

NLP Principles That You Can Use in Daily Life







NLP Principles That You Can Use in Daily Life



Here are the basic principles of NLP that you or any person of any age can apply to absolutely any situation in life. Like any new skill that we are at the beginning of learning it'll take some practice, but practice makes perfect at what we practice. The value will come very soon - the quality of your life and communication with yourself and others - and thus your productivity and happiness levels will increase for you and people around you:







You create your own reality.
You know your reality, but not other people's realities.
You get what you concentrate on.
You have within you the resources you need to achieve what you want.
Your behavior is purposeful.
You are doing the best you can - and you could probably do better.
Every behavior is useful in some context.
Choice is better than no choice. Always aim to increase choice.
The meaning of communication is the response it elicits.
There's no failure, only feedback.
Each person has their own reality. As they operate from that reality, they're always right.
Your current behavior is the best possible choice for you at the time.
If what you're doing isn't working, do something different.
Mind and body are one integrated system.
People with the most flexibility are most likely to achieve what they want. The part of any system that has the greatest variety of possible responses will control the system.
People work perfectly - no one is wrong or broken.
There're no resistant clients - only inflexible communicators.
It is easier to change yourself than to change others.
People do the best they can given the choices they believe are available to them.
Modeling excellence leads to excellence.
If one person can do something, it is possible to model and teach it to others.
Everything that is said, done, experienced is said, done, experienced by someone.
Experience can be changed.
Mind and body are systemic - when you change one, you'll change the other.
People will make meaning from experience - not just respond.
Energy flows where attention goes.
Our realities limit what we are capable of more than do the constraints of external realities.
As we have better strategies for achieving what we want, we will choose to use them.
We all have equal access to building and using internal resources.
Our deeper experience is revealed in our language whenever we speak.









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