Do you often find yourself overwhelmed with negative thoughts? Do you even notice that you have a habit of contemplating on the worst case scenarios? Are you paralyzed by fear and unable to take action on things you know you should do?
And most important, have you ever questioned yourself on how you can stop yourself from being so negative?
Maybe you've just allowed yourself fall into the habit of seeking solace in negative thoughts. Whether we realize it or not, there's a comfort in negativity that's just not always there in a positive outlook. Does that sound paradoxical?
Being positive requires courage. It's an ability to accept mistakes fully and claim ownership of them.
It means living in a certain amount of discomfort. It means leaning towards your edge of comfort zone and expanding it daily. It means choosing what's possible instead of what's known.
The truth about life is that personal growth can only occurs when we grow through discomfort and find the next place of discomfort to navigate.
That's fine when we look at someone who tends to drown themselves in a kind of helplessness, but most people get scared when they experience anything remotely involving a negative thought. They have a negative thought that feeling discomfort means they are about to become depressed and they won't be able to get out of that emotional state.
Such people would do well to stop attaching themselves to random emotions. The emotion might come and go, but has no effect on the person unless they choose to grab hold of it.
Either way, the biggest mistake people make is to see negativity and positivity as polar opposites.
Black and white. Right or wrong. Yes or no.
The world is full of multiple shades of grey, and a healthy approach would be to remain mindful of 2 facts:
#1 Everything has flaws, no matter how perfect it seems from the outside.
#2 Every flaw has positive features, no matter how defected they look from the outside.
By remaining realistic this way, it's much easier to experience emotions as steady, rather than disruptive mood swings.
So, forget about just trying to make yourself be positive, like jamming a square peg into a round hole.
Instead, begin looking at everything that's positive as a force for good in your life, and everything that's negative as a minor stimulus for you to grow.
How your emotions affect you depend on how much you actively allow them to do so.
Don't allow something temporary take hold of how you feel generally about something. A momentary, impulsive behaviour on the part of your friends wouldn't influence you to cease your friendship forever, so why would you allow a momentary feeling of negativity influence you to maintain a negative outlook of the world for the rest of your life?
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