We probably all have that one friend, one relative, one colleague or one neighbor who is particularly positive and can always see the bright side of the picture.
Sometimes they are kind of annoying. But sometimes they are kind of uplifting as they are trying to bring the best out of us.
In fact, you can possibly be that positivity freak.
However, if you are not naturally inclined to be so positive all the time, you may be confused and wondering how you too can actually learn (or teach yourself) to be more optimistic.
Some people are inherently positive while others are inherently negative. Maybe it's an inborn thing. Maybe it's shaped by their childhood experience.
But are we all capable of transforming ourselves from a negative energy-draining vampire to a positive, happy, self-motivating individual?
The key lies in shifting the way you think about things.
It turns out that optimism is not simply the tendency to believe that things will turn out for the better while pessimism is not just the tendency to think things will turn out poorly.
Instead, these terms are used to describe the way a person thinks about what causes the adversity.
A pessimist tends to think about these things in a way that makes them feel powerless. For example, many pessimists attribute the adversity to internal forces, such as "Oh my god, this ruins everything!", "This is totally out of my control!", or "Oh dear, there is no way I can change this."
It is possible to change the way that you think about things. When you are faced with an adversity you're your default set of thinking makes you conclude that things are negative, take a step back, take a deep breath and let's reconsider it from a different angle.
For example, if you have an upcoming test and you are having difficulty understanding the material that is being covered, it is easy to fall into the line of thinking that you are going to fail. A healthier option is to think about ways you could better understand the material and work on learning and studying what you need in order to get a better grade on the test.
The idea is that if you are thinking you are going to fail, you probably will. Where focus goes, energy flows.
Changing your thought process and studying the material thoroughly is the only sensible option to improve your chances of success.
While our attitudes towards things are sometimes habitual, it is possible to change the way that you think about things, thus learning to be more optimistic about events.
Reading positive affirmations will help, but at the end of the day, it all comes down to reconditioning yourself to re-frame any situations in the most empowering angle so that you consciously attach a positive meaning on it.
Let's build up your awareness, train your focus muscle and transform yourself into a positive human being!
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