We were not born with fears. If we were, we would have never learned to walk, ride a bike, or even play, for fear of getting hurt. Children are fearless. They can fall off their bike and break their arm and then get right back on the bike, broken arm and all.
How do they do it? They have an endless amount of motivation. When they want something they go after it. They succeed more often than adults because they keep trying no matter how many times they fail. Below are three tips to catching the motivation bug for three very common fears.
Fear of Public Speaking: Many children in our school system are given topics, told to research their topics, and then give a speech in front of the entire class. These children are stripped of their creativity and their imagination and forced to give an oral presentation of a topic they are usually too young to understand or care anything about. Some children fly through these types of assignments while others fail miserably.
When we become adults we remember failing miserably as one of our worst childhood experiences. The older we grow, the worse the memory becomes, and the more we exploit it. The memory is embedded within our mind, thus, it gives us a fear.
To conquer your fear of public speaking, first, realize where the fear came from. Realize that we were all children once and we all made mistakes. Tell yourself that you will not fail miserably and concentrate heavily upon the benefits you will receive if you commit yourself to a public speaking engagement. Once you realize these benefits, your motivation will slowly begin to kick in.
Write your benefits on paper and read them frequently to increase your motivation. Don't commit to a public speaking engagement for which you have no interest. Make sure it is something you are passionate about so your benefits will be important to you. Passion always makes motivation more powerful. Visualize yourself speaking in public and succeeding.
Fear of Failure: Many children are punished or criticized for not being perfect. As they grow older, it becomes easier to not attempt anything for which they might be punished or criticized for. When they become adults, it becomes even easier to not attempt anything new.
The problem with a fear of failure is that we spend our lives in the "if only" mode. "If only" I'd finished my bachelors degree, "If only" I had a better job, "If only" I had more money, "If only, If only, If only"
Our economy is currently not the greatest. Many people are unemployed, but just as many people are over employed. Many of those who are over employed are completing the work of two people, working extra hours, and working for jerks.
Because of their fear of failure, they continue to put up with their depressing work environment. They continue to be miserable and continue to say "If only."
To conquer your fear of failure, take action. Write, on paper, one small easily attainable goal. Then, write all the steps you will take to achieve that goal. As you accomplish these steps, cross them off. Once you have acquired your goal, cross it off. Repeat this process and each time you write a new goal, make your goal a little bit bigger and a little bit more difficult.
When you begin this process, find goals to accomplish which are important to you. Remember, passion gives motivation power. The more passionate you are about your goal, the more important it becomes to you. The more important it becomes to you, the more motivation you will have to achieve it.
Fear of Success: Many adults learned to fear success during their school years and in many sports. They were held back by ignorant adults to allow other children to catch up to them. Many schools believe in the team method, where several of the children will work on a project and receive the same grade. Children who want to excel cannot because they are held back while waiting for their classmates. Many sports have this same concept.
As these children become adults they continue to wait on everyone else to catch up with them. Unfortunately, they do not realize that they are the ones doing nothing. They are the ones sitting in their comfort zone afraid to move for fear of not being part of the crowd.
To conquer your fear of success, realize that it is okay to be different. Remember that you were taught this fear; you were not born with it. When you become the successful person you want to become you will find that not only do you have your same circle of friends, but you will also have many more.
Once you conquer your fears, you will realize how much they have held you back. Always remember that you were not born with your fears; you were taught your fears. Getting rid of your fears frees you to do whatever you want to do. It is like taking a weight off your shoulders. When the weight is gone, you will have an increased amount of motivation, like when you were a child.
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